by scmatchmakers | Jan 7, 2020 | Ask the Matchmaker, Best Matchmaker, Uncategorized
Our hearts are happy when our wonderful South Carolina Matchmakers matches fall in love and get married.
Helping our clients find their forever soulmate is an amazing adventure – sometimes taking us and them on a ride we never saw coming. Donna, our Matchmaker, worked hard to ensure that these two Hilton Head clients were successful. “First date feedback from both of them was that the date was great and months later a follow up call revealed that Nick and June fell in love. Nick had popped the question & now the two were happily married. Our ultimate goal would be for all of our client’s stories to end this way.” Donna admits, ” an even bigger reward is to know that we are changing people’s lives for the better in so many ways.”
“We help clients with the task of getting ready for love.” Jennifer J. Hayes, a relationship expert and dating coach for South Carolina Matchmakers describes herself as the “go-between” to making love happen.”If they are open and also willing to work on themselves, than it makes it easier to be successful in love.We want every single person we work with to find what they came to us for and that’s always at the top of our priority list.”
Nick and June were both open and ready for love so their success was inevitable. South Carolina Matchmakers of Hilton Head and the entire South Carolina Matchmakers Staff would like to wish Nick and June years of happiness.
by scmatchmakers | Jan 18, 2018 | Ask the Matchmaker
Hiring a matchmaker or using a dating service is something that never crossed my mind. Like all of us, I imagined the perfect love would appear at the perfect time. We’d ride off into the sunset happily ever after. But that didn’t happen—not even close. So after years of dating in a decidedly unproductive fashion, I began to consider alternate approaches for meeting The One.
Maybe it was time to bring in the professionals.
It was my father’s idea initially. “Precious, why don’t you try a matchmaker? I keep seeing their ads. It looks like a good idea.” At first I felt a little—I don’t know—insulted maybe? “Dad, I can get my own dates, thank you very much. I don’t need an agency to help me meet men.” “I know you meet plenty of men, sweetie. I’m just wondering if you’re meeting the right type of men.” He had a point.
Still, I wrestled with the idea for several months. Below are the three main reservations I had—and what it took for me to get over them.
Why I didn’t want to take this Avenue
- It’s Embarrassing: Admittedly, I wasn’t running into strong prospects on my own, but hiring a matchmaker seemed a pretty drastic step. And frankly, it felt a little embarrassing. What would people think—that I was so pitiful I couldn’t manage my own love life? Then again, I had to admit that although I did date a lot, I wasn’t connecting with men with whom I could envision a future . . .
How I Got Over It: Ultimately, I realized there was no shame in partnering with a dating service in order to avail myself of a pool of quality eligible men and have someone do the contacting and arranging for me. What’s so embarrassing about intentionally trying to find love? Nothing!
- It’s Expensive. Of course the fee proved a barrier at first. Who wants to have to pay for dates? Why couldn’t I just bump into The One on the subway or at the park or at the gym?
How I Got Over It: As I deliberated, I eventually came to see the cost of the program as a perk, not a detriment. If the service were cheap or free, it would attract people looking merely for hook ups and casual dates—and I didn’t need any help finding guys like that! I came to realize that the financial investment actually serves as a vetting process, ensuring that the men I’d meet were serious about pursuing a long-term relationship!
- I Don’t Get to Pick Who I Date. Turning over my romantic pursuits to a matchmaker meant I gave up control over who I met! This definitely gave me pause.
How I Got Over It: After mulling it over, I recognized this obstacle would also end up being beneficial in the end. One of the main reasons I considered hiring a dating service in the first place was that I didn’t have time to scroll through hundreds of profiles, reading bio after bio and perusing photo after photo. Losing control of the selection process meant gaining time—which was definitely worth it to me
I am so Glad I did!
And as for why I’m so glad I hired a dating service? Because that’s how I met The One! In May we’ll celebrate our fifth wedding anniversary and we couldn’t be happier! Thankfully, I got over my reservations and joined because Dan and I never would have crossed paths if we hadn’t!
If you’re considering hiring a dating service, I’m sure you’ve grappled with the same concerns I did. I hope my thoughts will help you determine if a matchmaker is for you. And more than anything, I hope you meet The One!
by scmatchmakers | Sep 2, 2017 | Ask the Matchmaker
Jennifer Hayes, the Director of Operations for South Carolina Matchmakers, adds that because bad relationships tend to harden people, matchmakers must encourage clients to keep their hearts and minds open to love. “One of the biggest hurdles we have as a matchmakers is encouraging clients to stay open to the possibilities of finding love,” she tells Mental Floss, in a recent interview.
“Read more at ” Mental Floss that links to the full article
by scmatchmakers | Jun 21, 2017 | Ask the Matchmaker
Colleen is an attractive woman in her forties who’s decided it’s time to meet new people. Recently divorced, she’s a little nervous, but excited for new experiences and possibilities. Unsure where to start, Colleen reaches out to a few of her girl friends to arrange plans for Saturday night.
Attempt #1 is Colleen’s best gal pal from the office. Samantha is also recently divorced, but unlike Colleen, she has completely surrounded herself with work. “You know, I would but I will be out of town this weekend for a conference and open house, and have that retreat the following weekend. How does your schedule look in a month?”
Colleen doesn’t think much of it and tries again. “Who gets lucky on their first attempt, anyway?” she muses as she dials.
Attempt #2 is Colleen’s best friend from grad school. Erin has college-aged children and has much more availability these days. “I’m so sorry,” she sighs. “The hubby and I are doing date night this Saturday. We’ve just been so busy lately, I can’t even tell you the last time we’ve had a meal together.”
Feeling a little disheartened, she shakes it off and scrolls through her phone looking for another number.
Attempt #3 is her best and oldest friend, her sister Karen. “She’ll be up for a few drinks this weekend!” She thinks hopefully. Karen is married with middle school-aged twins with rather complicated extracurricular schedules. “I’d love to go out with you,” she says. “But the girls have soccer tournaments this weekend.”
Discouraged, Colleen opens a bottle of wine and settles in for another night of reruns on the couch. She comes to the realization that dating has changed drastically in the last few years. Meeting people isn’t as easy as it was in her younger years.
These are common stories we hear every day, says Jennifer Hayes of South Carolina Matchmakers.
Want to get back into the dating scene, but aren’t sure where to start? Let us help you on your way! We at South Carolina Matchmakers understand that getting back into the game can be difficult, and often times stressful. Our easy-to-navigate website is designed to eliminate the stress and hassle associated with meeting other singles.
Our company helps mature females who have already found their own direction in life, but are still very much in the dating game. South Carolina Matchmakers is the premier platform when it comes to a safe and reliable method for busy individuals to meet interesting professionals, connect, and form lasting relationships.
The relationship coaches at South Carolina Matchmakers screen and qualify each applicant, giving you the assurance and peace of mind that each potential relationship partner is here for the right reason. You can take comfort in knowing that, by passing our meticulous assessment process, each prospective date has proven they are both mentally and emotionally prepared to take that next step with you. Our diligence and dedication to our clients has made us one the area’s largest introduction service.
That’s why so many singles contact southcarolinamatchmakers.com. We believe in our abilities, so should you!
by scmatchmakers | Jan 28, 2015 | Ask the Matchmaker
Q :Dear SC Matchmaker,
I have been married for 4 years and last year I gave birth to twins. I went back to work about 6 months ago. So, now I work full-time and I feel like sometimes I am gonna lose my mind. My husband would love for me just to stay at home and be a full-time wife and mother but I love working and I don’t want to quit my job. My mother agrees with him that there is no way I can balance it all. Sometimes I feel guilty and think that maybe I can’t give my twins 100% because of my job. I am looking for advice on how to balance it all without short changing someone including myself.
outofbalance-Gina
A: Dear Gina,
There are many people out there that will question if we can really have it all. My answer is yes… and no. Let me explain. If working makes you happy, you need to continue doing it. My motto is: “Happy children come from happy parents!” However, can we honestly give our children, our husbands, our careers and ourselves 100%? Of course not! But you can learn to do is balance and give them equal time or the quality time they need. Your children are still babies and your time spent with them now is a little more demanding because they are so dependent on you. That will change as they get older. If working full-time is too demanding, maybe try working part-time until the twins get a little older, if you can afford it. I would also communicate how you are feeling to your husband in hopes that he will support your decision either way.
Balancing it all is definitely a juggling act, but one I enjoy. What I learned right after my son was born is sometimes me second guessing myself will lie just beneath my surface of composure, threatening to rock my balance. Sometimes it does, but in order for me to continue full steam ahead with this life I want, I deal with it before it knocks me off. I also learned that my definition of “having it all” changed as my life changed. Communication about my thoughts and feelings with my husband is essential. He is my partner in all of this, and believe it or not, he helps me keep it all balanced. I rely on him for a lot, and he supports me because he knows it makes me happy. Sometimes certain aspects of my life get cheated, but I have learned it is okay. I am not perfect and the world won’t end if I miss a meeting, a date night or a basketball game. Everyone deserves to live a happy and fulfilled life… whatever that is. We love our families, but sometimes we yearn for something more. You shouldn’t feel bad about that, because I believe in the end, it is worth it. To every woman out there that ask, “Can I really have it all?” Yes you can , just not at the same time.
Matchmaker Jei
