Why Hire South Carolina Matchmakers?

Why Hire South Carolina Matchmakers?

by | Mar 30, 2022 | Ask the Matchmaker

1. What you’re doing just isn’t working

You have no problem finding dates on your own, but you’re just not meeting the right type of people. Maybe you’re devoting a lot of time to online dating or going to bars but haven’t met accomplished, educated, honest, commitment-minded singles. Maybe you keep dating the wrong type of person, choosing poorly for yourself. Whatever the reason, your current approach to dating just isn’t working. Don’t worry, we can help!

2. Personal service

We believe that hiring an expert, a personal matchmaker, is the best way to optimize your time and find a compatible match. Our approach is a personal one. We form relationships with our clients and their potential dates. When we make matches, we use old-fashioned intuition based on our understanding of each person and what they desire in a partner. Nothing can replace the personal touch that we offer.

So, while you tend to the business of your life, we get to work finding, screening, investigating and personally interviewing your potential dates. In essence, we date them first to see if they are a good fit for you. We will not make an introduction until we feel we have a potential life-partner who is everything you are looking for. We won’t waste a minute of your valuable time.

3. We are experts

Our savvy clients understand the value in hiring an expert, whether investing in a stock portfolio, buying real estate or recruiting the most qualified employees for their business. So, why not hire an expert to find the love of your life?

As your matchmaker, we become your personal agent, in effect your headhunter. Not only will we consider other clients, we will utilize our extensive database to find matches who meet your criteria, we will actively recruit, network, and may even advertise (discreetly of course) to find you a perfect match. We will do whatever it takes to find exceptional matches with the specific qualities you desire.

4. We date them before you do… and they have to dazzle us!

Each potential match is required to meet with us for an extensive face-to-face interview. We dig deep, taking the time to know each person intimately in order to facilitate excellent matches for our clients. We know that you’re a great catch and can be selective about who you date. Therefore, your potential dates have to dazzle us before we will consider introducing them to you… and we’re not easily impressed!

5. Valuable Feedback

We ask our clients and their matches to give us feedback after each date. This enables us to better understand what you are looking for and to refine our search. Feedback provides you with valuable insight that will help you to become more successful when dating in the future. This is a rare opportunity to learn how you are perceived on a date.

6. Put your best foot forward – Helping you along the way!

Once we find you an amazing match, we want you to make a great impression! If you would like our advice on your appearance, dating etiquette or any other aspect of dating, we are here for you. Your success is our success, so we will do whatever it takes to make sure you find (and keep) the love of your life!

7. Safety

Your safety is paramount; therefore we provide extensive background investigations to ensure you meet safe, quality individuals.

8. You will meet commitment-minded singles

When people have paid for the services of a matchmaker, or taken the time to meet with one personally, they have a vested interest in finding a life-partner. Big dating services will represent clients looking for casual dates. We won’t. Our clients and free members are ready to commit to long-term relationships.

9. You’re too busy

If you’re like most Charlestonians, you’re too busy to read through hundreds of online personal ads, email back and forth with potential matches, spend time chatting on the phone or hanging out at bars. A lot of work goes into finding a quality person to date. Wouldn’t you rather we invest our time?

10. You are reserved or shy

By nature, you’re reserved or shy and prefer to meet someone in a more intimate setting. You don’t enjoy meat markets like bars and singles events.

11. Deception

One of the most common complaints about on-line dating is that people misrepresent themselves. We want to make sure there will be no unpleasant surprises. We offer background checks which verify identity and age. We personally meet with everyone we work with to ensure that they are sincere. We have a no tolerance for lying policy. One lie, and we will not represent a client or member. We will make sure you are meeting sincere, honest, quality people.

12. Confidentiality

Charleston, SC is a somewhat large city, but it’s also a small town. News travels fast and gossip spreads like wildfire. Why post your picture on-line when you can be discreetly represented by us? No one needs to know about your dating life but you. Your privacy is our priority.

How to create the love you desire in 2021

How to create the love you desire in 2021

by | Jan 6, 2021 | love advice

1. Believe it is possible. All things are possible for those that believe. Write the dream down and rehearse it daily until you begin to believe it. Address those belief systems that are blocking love.

2. Be self aware. This includes knowing your strengths – what do you have to offer in a relationship, what are your values, goals and ambitions. A person that can speak about themselves from a place of self awareness will be very impressive to someone else.

3. Become the love you desire. The question to ask yourself here is…’Am I the person in character looks and status, who the person I desire will desire? If so how so? And if not, identify the gaps and begin to work on them

4. Prepare, Plan and Pursue. As they say, no plan is a plan to fail. There is no time like the present to begin to be intentional about your love life. Work on yourself and begin to do the things you need to practically do to become who you need to be to attract the love of your dreams. Do you need to hire a matchmaker, a coach, join the gym, work on your character, your goals? Do it!

5. Step out. It goes without saying. After implementing all of the above steps you’ve got to get out there and start dating! If you need help navigating the dating world or getting intentional about dating. Get in touch with us at South Carolina Matchmakers we can help.

Are You Too Busy For Love?

Are You Too Busy For Love?

by | Aug 19, 2020 | Ask the Matchmaker

In our world today, it seems we are becoming less and less touched. We text instead of calling and email instead of visiting. For some, dating has become an on-line affair. Are we doomed to a solitary existence?  Will our social skills minimize to the point where the hottest thing we touch – is our computer?  Of course we don’t want that, but many of us end up settling for the laptop cuddle, because our lives are just plain busy. Our work, family and home responsibilities keep us running around with so much going on, that often times, we don’t even break to take care of ourselves. With our busy schedules, we just don’t have the time to cultivate an existing relationship or put any effort into finding new love?

Do you even remember the excitement of eyes- catching, chemistry igniting love?  How long has it been since you felt the electricity flowing through your body, that only Love can spark? For those of us who Can remember the wonderful feeling of being in love, we know it is an awesome feeling! So why is it, that so many people say they are too busy for love? We are a nation of professionals, who have become focused on achieving success. We want to be logical and focus on what will benefit our lives.  We must organize our company to optimal efficiency. We want to consider every detail of our lives to build a future that will result in personal gain.  Are there any benefits to love?

What is the Value of Love?

Dean Ornish, MD, author of Love and Survival, The scientific Basis for the Healing Power of Intimacy, has conducted numerous studies where he has proven that Love is good for your physical health. One such study conducted at Yale, yielded significant results among a group of men and women who were undergoing coronary angiography. Those who reported that they had support and felt loved had considerably less blockage in their arteries.  In fact, his results have been duplicated. MSN reports the findings of a National Longitudinal Mortality study, observing the life span of over a million participants since 1979. Results show that married people have fewer heart attacks, less cancer and even live longer. The University of Iowa demonstrated that those who are in love and have strong support systems, generate higher levels of the body’s natural immune system for fighting cancer cells- white blood cells. According to the National Institutes of Health (NIH), a primary response to love occurring in our bodies, is the elevated production of the hormone oxytocin. Oxytocin makes you feel good and it works in the brain along with dopamine which helps humans to recognize pleasure. Depression or other mental illnesses sometimes result from malfunction in this system. Dr. Kathleen Light with the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, did a study where she found oxytocin levels increased in married participants after they held hands or discussed positive memories.

Research indicates there are benefits to love. But will this knowledge make our lives less busy? No, but it could allow us to enjoy it more. In our quest to create the best possible future, should we put any effort into love? The scientific community says-Yes! Do it for your heart. Find love to increase your life span. Experience your brain on pleasure. Take a moment and consider your quality of life and why you work so hard. Is it to spend evenings alone?  Love is beautiful and love is kind. Love has a powerful effect on our bodies and minds.  Love is worth the effort. If you need to, put it on your calendar.

Overcome Conflicts in Relationships and Grow Together

Overcome Conflicts in Relationships and Grow Together

by | May 7, 2018 | love advice

As anyone who’s been in a relationship for more than a few days knows, conflicts between partners are unavoidable. They can crop up for any number of reasons. What happens in relationships when fights and disagreements over things outside of the relationship come up as they inevitably will? How do you speak your mind while respecting both your partner and relationship? Do you think it’s possible to agree to disagree?

In my experience, the ego is what separates us while the spirit unites. For example, being “right” around religion and politics is an ego-driven badge of honor that creates tension and separation. But when you can walk into a conversation or experience with an open mind knowing that differences create opportunities for growth and expansion, then your spirit is leading the way. And in those situations, you create the space for connection.”

Allowing ourselves room to be wrong makes us better listeners and observers. You’ll find yourself connecting with and sometimes embracing other people’s points-of-view rather than reactively judging and dismissing them from the get-go. I understand it’s not easy to do, but it is something to practice when you find yourself between a rock and a hard place with someone for which you care. And don’t forget that nothing says you have to agree or align in that way. I’ve matched plenty of democrats to republicans who are happily married. I see Jews and Christians, and a rainbow of religions making relationships and marriages work all of the time. I really believe it comes down to how you choose to show up in the partnership when you aren’t on the same page with your significant other. These are moments your partner will remember, and they have the potential to be a source of contention. When people are fighting, they typically see it as a “Me vs. You” thing. But a healthy couple frames it as a “Me and You vs. The Problem” thing. Pausing to explore the scenario through your partner’s POV is a great first step before engaging in any versions of dialogue or disagreement.

After your pause for perspective, if you’re still irritated, remind yourself that you are teammates and there is no competition for being right. Instead of worrying about blame, spend some of that valuable energy thinking through plausible solutions for the problem that respects you, your partner, and the relationship. Once you’ve taken those rational moments of mindfulness, then you’re ready to engage in a potentially uncomfortable yet respectful discussion rather than a fight. Be open to the possibility that the outcome might be simply to agree to disagree. I think in this day in age, compassion and understanding are what we are being called to do and if we can’t be compassionate with one another then what is the point of being in a relationship at all?

Divorced and Single:Now What?

Divorced and Single:Now What?

by | Apr 17, 2018 | love advice