by scmatchmakers | Jan 7, 2020 | Ask the Matchmaker, Best Matchmaker, Uncategorized
Our hearts are happy when our wonderful South Carolina Matchmakers matches fall in love and get married.
Helping our clients find their forever soulmate is an amazing adventure – sometimes taking us and them on a ride we never saw coming. Donna, our Matchmaker, worked hard to ensure that these two Hilton Head clients were successful. “First date feedback from both of them was that the date was great and months later a follow up call revealed that Nick and June fell in love. Nick had popped the question & now the two were happily married. Our ultimate goal would be for all of our client’s stories to end this way.” Donna admits, ” an even bigger reward is to know that we are changing people’s lives for the better in so many ways.”
“We help clients with the task of getting ready for love.” Jennifer J. Hayes, a relationship expert and dating coach for South Carolina Matchmakers describes herself as the “go-between” to making love happen.”If they are open and also willing to work on themselves, than it makes it easier to be successful in love.We want every single person we work with to find what they came to us for and that’s always at the top of our priority list.”
Nick and June were both open and ready for love so their success was inevitable. South Carolina Matchmakers of Hilton Head and the entire South Carolina Matchmakers Staff would like to wish Nick and June years of happiness.
by scmatchmakers | Feb 12, 2019 | Valentine's Day
Ever wonder why men hate Valentine’s Day as much as women love it? When it comes to this day of love, women think it’s all about them. Men are supposed to give flowers, jewelry, chocolates, and plan an elaborate date while women are barely expected to give a card. Years of this lopsided display of affection is enough to drive any man crazy. The solution is simple: share the love. Instead of expecting gifts and affirmation, show your man how much you value and appreciate him.
There are dozens of sites that provide Valentine’s Day gift suggestions based on the interests of your guy, but women often spend unnecessary time and money gifting something their man didn’t really want. Take preventative measures by asking your partner what he wants. Treat Valentine’s Day as you would any other holiday and give out of love and not obligation.
February 14 is the day chosen to celebrate love worldwide. This however shouldn’t be the only time of year you make an effort to show your significant other how much you love and appreciate him. With children, work and responsibilities, it’s easy to get caught in the routine of life and take your loved one for granted. Valentine’s Day is meant to remind us of the love we have for one another, and I’m reminding you to take care of your man.
There’s no denying that women should be celebrated and appreciated for all that we do, but the day of love should never be about one person. Love doesn’t work that way, so I encourage you to share the love on Valentine’s Day.
by scmatchmakers | Feb 7, 2019 | Interracial Dating:
It’s been 52 years since United States Supreme Court passed Loving v. Virginia’s anti-miscegenation laws, that day is remembered annually on Loving Day. Now, partners of different racial backgrounds no longer need to hide their relationships for fear of legal persecution. But while things have changed socially, there’s still a lot missing from the conversation surrounding interracial relationships. The country has a long way to go in terms of racial discourse, period. In the case of interracial dating, there are still huge stereotypes, misconceptions, and presumptions about what it means to date someone with a different race so 80 relationship experts including our very own, Jennifer J. Hayes, relationship & dating practitioner from South Carolina Matchmakers, gives us their knowledge and advice on handling interracial relationships. Read more
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by scmatchmakers | Jul 5, 2018 | Best Matchmaker
Love is always something good and worth celebrating and this month we are celebrating one of our amazing couples!
Cynthia Greene, South Carolina Matchmakers Executive Matchmaker, got the great privilege of attending the couples nuptials. She was over the moon to receive an invite and reflects back on meeting them both prior to their engagement. “Shawne and Doug are a great example of two people who set their intentions clearly and then committed to the matchmaking process. In the very beginning Doug verbally told me, ‘I am looking for a serious relationship, I want to get married.’ He let his matchmaking journey be an adventure with each new match staying focused on the end result.” Shawne’s story wasn’t much different Cynthia explains, “Shawne had a great mentality. She wasn’t narrow-minded about her idea of Mr. Right. She was open to the process of meeting someone her matchmaker felt aligned with her personality, character, and lifestyle. They both remained very open about what they were looking for but both agreed that if the match was the one, the end result would be marriage. Flowers on the first date, meeting the parents, an engagement and the rest is history!
The excited pair planned a wedding weekend with their family, friends, and South Carolina Matchmakers, Cynthia Greene, said it was a day she will never forget. Open hearts and open minds are the holy grail of matchmaking. Of course, fostering those two qualities takes time and mindful effort. But together, the two can promote blissful connections and make our job as matchmakers fruitful and so rewarding.
by scmatchmakers | May 7, 2018 | love advice
As anyone who’s been in a relationship for more than a few days knows, conflicts between partners are unavoidable. They can crop up for any number of reasons. What happens in relationships when fights and disagreements over things outside of the relationship come up as they inevitably will? How do you speak your mind while respecting both your partner and relationship? Do you think it’s possible to agree to disagree?
In my experience, the ego is what separates us while the spirit unites. For example, being “right” around religion and politics is an ego-driven badge of honor that creates tension and separation. But when you can walk into a conversation or experience with an open mind knowing that differences create opportunities for growth and expansion, then your spirit is leading the way. And in those situations, you create the space for connection.”
Allowing ourselves room to be wrong makes us better listeners and observers. You’ll find yourself connecting with and sometimes embracing other people’s points-of-view rather than reactively judging and dismissing them from the get-go. I understand it’s not easy to do, but it is something to practice when you find yourself between a rock and a hard place with someone for which you care. And don’t forget that nothing says you have to agree or align in that way. I’ve matched plenty of democrats to republicans who are happily married. I see Jews and Christians, and a rainbow of religions making relationships and marriages work all of the time. I really believe it comes down to how you choose to show up in the partnership when you aren’t on the same page with your significant other. These are moments your partner will remember, and they have the potential to be a source of contention. When people are fighting, they typically see it as a “Me vs. You” thing. But a healthy couple frames it as a “Me and You vs. The Problem” thing. Pausing to explore the scenario through your partner’s POV is a great first step before engaging in any versions of dialogue or disagreement.
After your pause for perspective, if you’re still irritated, remind yourself that you are teammates and there is no competition for being right. Instead of worrying about blame, spend some of that valuable energy thinking through plausible solutions for the problem that respects you, your partner, and the relationship. Once you’ve taken those rational moments of mindfulness, then you’re ready to engage in a potentially uncomfortable yet respectful discussion rather than a fight. Be open to the possibility that the outcome might be simply to agree to disagree. I think in this day in age, compassion and understanding are what we are being called to do and if we can’t be compassionate with one another then what is the point of being in a relationship at all?
