What’s Your Love Language?

What’s Your Love Language?

The Five Love Languages and What They Mean For A Relationship

One of the best resources for understanding how you and a potential partner can meet on common ground is to use the five love languages. How do you express and receive love? How does your partner? Understanding these five love languages and different pathways of connection can help to smooth out misunderstandings and strengthen the potential bond between you, a partner, and even within a family unit. Are you ready to learn more about the five love languages? Let’s take a look.

Physical Touch

This is the art of hand holding, back rubs, or simple physical affection. People who connect using this love language are lovers of the physical world. They love to give reassuring shoulder touches and enjoy long sessions of cuddling.

Words of Affirmation

Things like, “I believe in you,” or “You’re really beautiful,” gel very well with those of you who enjoy words of affirmation. For these people, the art of language is the quickest way to their hearts.

Quality Time

Quality time lovers love to spend time with their beloved. However, it should be noted that this doesn’t mean laying on the couch and watching TV together. Quality time is time spent with focused attention and a keen quality time-lover can tell when you’re not entirely invested.

Acts of Service

Do you know someone who really loves it when you do them a simple favor? Things like doing the dishes for them or fixing something in their home without prompting will mean the world to someone who receives this love language.

Receiving Gifts

For some people, the physical representations of your love will shine the brightest among your expressions. Something as small as a coffee or as big as a new car will mean the world for people who love receiving gifts.

Utilizing the Five Love Languages

As you approach a new relationship, take the test here to find out what kind of lover you are. Do you thrive on acts of service or do you prefer physical manifestations of love? When you know and understand your own love language, you can help your new match to express their affection in an effective way. Similarly, when you discover your partner’s love language, you can serve their needs without wasting effort on gifts they don’t care for or words that don’t reach them. At the end of the day, the five love languages serve as a tool for understanding and connecting with your partner in a more effective way; use them to make the perfect match!

Overcome Conflicts in Relationships and Grow Together

Overcome Conflicts in Relationships and Grow Together

As anyone who’s been in a relationship for more than a few days knows, conflicts between partners are unavoidable. They can crop up for any number of reasons. What happens in relationships when fights and disagreements over things outside of the relationship come up as they inevitably will? How do you speak your mind while respecting both your partner and relationship? Do you think it’s possible to agree to disagree?

In my experience, the ego is what separates us while the spirit unites. For example, being “right” around religion and politics is an ego-driven badge of honor that creates tension and separation. But when you can walk into a conversation or experience with an open mind knowing that differences create opportunities for growth and expansion, then your spirit is leading the way. And in those situations, you create the space for connection.”

Allowing ourselves room to be wrong makes us better listeners and observers. You’ll find yourself connecting with and sometimes embracing other people’s points-of-view rather than reactively judging and dismissing them from the get-go. I understand it’s not easy to do, but it is something to practice when you find yourself between a rock and a hard place with someone for which you care. And don’t forget that nothing says you have to agree or align in that way. I’ve matched plenty of democrats to republicans who are happily married. I see Jews and Christians, and a rainbow of religions making relationships and marriages work all of the time. I really believe it comes down to how you choose to show up in the partnership when you aren’t on the same page with your significant other. These are moments your partner will remember, and they have the potential to be a source of contention. When people are fighting, they typically see it as a “Me vs. You” thing. But a healthy couple frames it as a “Me and You vs. The Problem” thing. Pausing to explore the scenario through your partner’s POV is a great first step before engaging in any versions of dialogue or disagreement.

After your pause for perspective, if you’re still irritated, remind yourself that you are teammates and there is no competition for being right. Instead of worrying about blame, spend some of that valuable energy thinking through plausible solutions for the problem that respects you, your partner, and the relationship. Once you’ve taken those rational moments of mindfulness, then you’re ready to engage in a potentially uncomfortable yet respectful discussion rather than a fight. Be open to the possibility that the outcome might be simply to agree to disagree. I think in this day in age, compassion and understanding are what we are being called to do and if we can’t be compassionate with one another then what is the point of being in a relationship at all?

Divorced and Single:Now What?

Divorced and Single:Now What?


Advice from some of the countries top Matchmakers

Advice from some of the countries top Matchmakers

Jennifer Hayes, the Director of Operations for South Carolina Matchmakers, adds that because bad relationships tend to harden people, matchmakers must encourage clients to keep their hearts and minds open to love. “One of the biggest hurdles we have as a matchmakers is encouraging clients to stay open to the possibilities of finding love,” she tells Mental Floss, in a recent interview.

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The Dating Scene has Changed!

The Dating Scene has Changed!

Colleen is an attractive woman in her forties who’s decided it’s time to meet new people. Recently divorced, she’s a little nervous, but excited for new experiences and possibilities. Unsure where to start, Colleen reaches out to a few of her girl friends to arrange plans for Saturday night.

Attempt #1 is Colleen’s best gal pal from the office. Samantha is also recently divorced, but unlike Colleen, she has completely surrounded herself with work. “You know, I would but I will be out of town this weekend for a conference and open house, and have that retreat the following weekend. How does your schedule look in a month?”

Colleen doesn’t think much of it and tries again. “Who gets lucky on their first attempt, anyway?” she muses as she dials.

Attempt #2 is Colleen’s best friend from grad school. Erin has college-aged children and has much more availability these days. “I’m so sorry,” she sighs. “The hubby and I are doing date night this Saturday. We’ve just been so busy lately, I can’t even tell you the last time we’ve had a meal together.”

Feeling a little disheartened, she shakes it off and scrolls through her phone looking for another number.

Attempt #3 is her best and oldest friend, her sister Karen. “She’ll be up for a few drinks this weekend!” She thinks hopefully. Karen is married with middle school-aged twins with rather complicated extracurricular schedules. “I’d love to go out with you,” she says. “But the girls have soccer tournaments this weekend.”

Discouraged, Colleen opens a bottle of wine and settles in for another night of reruns on the couch. She comes to the realization that dating has changed drastically in the last few years. Meeting people isn’t as easy as it was in her younger years.

These are common stories we hear every day, says Jennifer Hayes of South Carolina Matchmakers.

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